29: Certain versus Uncertain


Today I got some good news to do with a situation I had been worrying about.

In hindsight, I can now see that there was no need to worry about it, because it worked the way I thought it probably would anyway.

It is a good reminder that I need to focus on what is certain instead of concerning myself with a bunch of “what if?” scenarios.

It comes back to the idea of mindfulness and being present in the moment. If I am walking down the road and fully present in my moment of walking, and what I am seeing, hearing and experience, I am focused on certainty. If I walk down the road focused on my worries about potential possibilities in the future, I am not only focused on uncertainty, but I am wasting the present.


27. The End Goal

Today, after explaining to my counsellor how I was struggling with worry, and my over-active mind, he reminded me that instead of focussing on the uncertainty, I need to focus on the things that are certain.

So that is the plan.

Very wise words.

I never thought I would enjoy going to a counsellor, or even look forward to it, but sometimes what you need is just to get your inside thoughts OUT and hear someone else’s perspective – and a little bit of tough love honesty never hurt either.

In the past I would never have opened up, because I liked to portray the idea that I had it all together. Now that that has been well and truly pulverised, I like that I can just be real, instead of trying to be perfect.