My Own Man is about a guy who turns 40, feels like he can’t stand up for himself, can’t hold his own, and doesn’t want to be like that anymore. So he goes on a journey to discover what it means to be a guy, what does it means to be a “real man.”
He actually begins by starting a journey to become an “alpha” male, but eventually learns to just be himself. The thing is, he felt pressure from society to be a man’s man, or to be a strong alpha male, but really, what he needed to do, and what he learnt to do, was just to be himself.
It has a really good quote that I think is so revelatory – “When you’re not looking outside of yourself for approval, it changes everything.”
What I take from this movie is that we all have wonderful qualities that make us who we are – but approval needs to come from within, not from people, reputation or society.
As a born and bred people pleaser and approval addict, this is a journey I am on, but it is a good reminder to not get stuck in the world of caring too much about what other people think of me.
The freedom that caring less about what the world thinks of you is huge, and I want more of that! It is my aim to be my own man.
I definitely recommend you watch this movie if you get a chance. It is available on Netflix now.